Monday, March 1, 2010

eHarmony and Me 2

Conscientious

It's a work day, breakfast is over, and you're dressed and ready. So how will you approach the tasks at hand? Some people work best with a clear schedule, a set of priorities and a due date for every step in the process. Others are, shall we say, less regimented. They approach a task with as much imagination as organization, and with a willingness to bend and modify in order to exercise some urge of creativity.

How about you? Do you walk in a straight line toward a clear goal, or are you more likely to dance your way down whatever path will get you wherever it is you're headed? The following paragraphs describe ways in which you approach the tasks life brings to you, and to what extent you are focused or flexible in how you choose to proceed.
Your approach toward your obligations is: FOCUSED AND FLEXIBLE
 
Words that describe you:
  • Casual
  • Informal
  • Compliant
  • Reliable
  • Organized
  • Solid
  • Dependable
  • Uncommitted
  • Genuine
A General Description of How You Interact with Others
When you take on a task at work or at home, you are reliable; you get the job done. In an organized way, you define the goal, lay out a plan, figure how long the task will take, and get to work "solid and dependable you".

But and this is important you're not a slave to the plan. You're committed to it, but not chained to it; the connection is more casual and informal. You know that sometimes "the best laid plans" fall off the tracks; when this happens, you clean up the train wreck and start over, undeterred.

Though not happening often, when plans change, you're okay with it. In fact, sometimes you change the plan. It's too nice of a Saturday to finish organizing the garage. Let's go for a bike ride instead. True, the next rainy Saturday will likely find you back in the garage, but for now the work can wait.

What an interesting combination of qualities in you're organized, but casual; solid, but compliant; and dependable, but informal. At home and at work, people know they can rely on you. You take great satisfaction in knowing that people think of you as disciplined and responsible, but you also know that you have something of a free spirit in you, and when this spirit moves you, off you go, following the impulse of the moment. You are rightly proud of your work ethic, but you also enjoy your willingness to lay the tools down, crank up the music and play like a child.

Negative Reactions Others May Have Toward You
Some people live like Marines: duty-bound, disciplined and driven. To these people you might seem uncommitted; where they would never leave work for play or change plans in the middle of their life's forced march, you let the circumstance sway you and move in a different direction, and they don't understand.

Others live like kites on a string, attached by thin threads to the solid ground of responsibility and are blown about by every gust of impulse or imagination. To these people you might seem too cowardly, like you'll flirt with your impulses but never give in fully, play on a Saturday but never blow of the entire work-week to "follow your bliss".

While these Marines and kite-flyers might look down on you for your combination of focus and flexibility, others might be envious. They can't free themselves from a sense that they're not doing enough, or from the equally frustrating feeling that they're not free enough.

And here you are with your accomplishments and your pleasures, getting the job done but also getting your hair blown back as you run with the wind. As far as these people are concerned, you're lucky you've got the best of both of the worlds in which they feel they fail.

Positive Responses Others May Have Toward You
What a great life you have, and a great attitude to boot. You know when to buckle down and push ahead to get the job done, and you do it well. You know when to lay the tools of your trade aside, grab your kite and head for the meadow where you can run with the wind. Many people will see and admire in you this lovely combination of a person who can focus, but who is flexible enough to know when to let the spirit move you in some new and livelier direction.

It's a life they aspire to, and they delight in seeing it played out in your life. They may ask your advice and turn you into a mentor of the full and balanced experience. They will want to know how you do it, what the costs are, and if you get frightened that you're not working hard enough or playing often enough. They may make you think about your own life more than you have, so you can share it with those who want to emulate this balance between flexibility and focus. They may be correct lucky you!


Thursday, February 25, 2010

eHarmony and Me

I had the bright idea to take the eharmony FREE personality profile.. just for kicks. Assuming you are self-aware you might get a semi accurate profile. I have no idea how my answers turned into their personality profile, but it was pretty close. At least in my opinion. The profile is pretty long, so I'll slowly post different parts.

Part 1 : Agreeableness


This section of your profile describes your interactions with other people. The ways we communicate our feelings, beliefs and ideas to others are influenced by our cultural backgrounds, the way we were raised, and sometimes which side of the bed we got up on this morning. Some of us are very mindful of others making decisions we hope will be in their best interests, even if it means sometimes neglecting our own interests. Others of us believe each person should be responsible for themselves, taking deep pride in our own character and independence with a firm belief that others are best served by doing the same. The following describes how you engage with others; illustrating the dimension of your personality that determines your independence or your desire to reach out and touch others in meaningful ways.

You are best described as: USUALLY TAKING CARE OF OTHERS
Words that describe you:
  • Understanding
  • Unquestioning
  • Humane
  • Selfless
  • Gentle
  • Kindhearted
  • Gullible
  • Indulgent
A General Description of How You Interact with Others
Here's one important truth about you: you have a tender heart. Yes, you know that others need to learn to take care of themselves. Yes, you know they need to accept the consequences of their foolish or bad behavior. And sometimes, even when your instinct is to help them, you will let them fend for themselves and let them suffer the consequences of their choices or circumstances.

But most of the time you are there to help when they need you. If they are in trouble, you offer compassion and go out of your way to be helpful. If they need someone who will listen, you are trustworthy and sympathetic. And you are direct with them; when they need advice or counsel, you offer it in a straightforward, direct manner, without beating around the bush.

You're also smart enough to know that you cannot take good care of others if you fail to take good care of yourself, so you listen to your own wants and needs. If you've run out of sympathetic energy, you spend time restoring yourself. If you've ignored your own pain or frustration, you find a friend who will listen well, or go into your own private healing place and give yourself permission to focus on you.

But before long, you're back at it with your friends, offering a sympathetic ear and compassion on which they learn to trust, also giving straightforward advice and counsel when they ask for it. You do know how to take care of yourself, but your genuine interest is in taking care of others.

Negative Reactions Others May Have Toward You
Selfish people might be embarrassed by you. While they're using their time and energy almost exclusively on themselves, they see you giving time to others, and your kindness puts them in a bad light.

Maybe they'll think you're a phony, that you use your altruism to get others indebted to you so they'll then owe you a favor. Or perhaps they'll accuse you, directly or behind your back, of focusing on the needs of others so no one ever focuses on your foibles or your genuine wounds.

All of these are false accusations; yours is a genuine compassion, because you truly have a tender heart. One criticism might be more substantial, though. People might notice when you let things get out of balance and spend so much time responding to others that you neglect your own needs.

Perhaps it's true to some extent that you are more comfortable when the focus is on someone else's needs than when you and your needs are front and center, and this may be a criticism worth paying attention to.

Positive Responses Others May Have Toward You
Positive responses to you are likely to far outweigh negative responses. For many people, your genuine kindness will be an example of a way to treat others and a way we want others to treat us. They will see in you the traits of compassion and sympathy which they might want to focus on in the development of their own character.

For those people you help you will be the friend they need, there at the right moment to help them when they've stepped into yet another thicket of pain or confusion. They will be grateful for your listening, for your straight talk when they need straight talk more than anything, and for the hand you extend so they can find their way, with your help, out of whatever tangle they've gotten themselves into.

Wednesday, February 24, 2010

StarLab and Sick

Wednesday through Friday I am teaching 2 forty-five minute lessons to each of the fourth grade classes. These lessons are taking place in the StarLab, a blow up planetarium. Very fun, but exhausting. I've been sick for almost 3 weeks with a sinus cold. I was on the mend, but relapsed on Tuesday. My throat is so sore and I'm talking nonstop for 3 days. I am also talking over a very loud fan that is keeping our planetarium blown up. My voice was practically gone by the end up the day. I'm been conserving all night so I can keep trucking tomorrow. I'd really rather stay in bed...

Not our lab, but the exact model.

An example of the inside. It is actually pitch black, but they had to take a picture so...

We are learning Greek Mythology and how to find the actual constellations without the drawings. This is what is projected on the walls for the greek part. It is really a cylinder, not straight, and rotates... just like a real planetarium.

Monday, February 15, 2010

What am I qualified for?

I am thinking about going to work tomorrow and DREADING it! I loved teaching for 10 years, but I just don't feel like I can do it anymore. These last 2 years in Georgia have been miserable. Beyond the daily work I just cannot handle getting up at 5 am anymore. I'm tired all the time and have a hard time going to bed at 9 pm.

I am giving up on the lottery (doesn't help that I don't play), so I need a new plan. I have a master's degree, but have no idea what kind of job I could get. Today's market is so bad it probably isn't a good idea to even try. I cannot even get a school transfer right now because of the economy.

I still need some ideas of things I can do in the future. What is a teacher qualified to do?

Sunday, February 14, 2010

Blast from the Past for Sarah

I sure hope I have another box of pictures somewhere! I do know at one point in college my mom threw out 2 "bags" of stuff I was saving!




Not much better than what you have...

For those that don't remember Frankie.


We have to pay tribute to these guys!

I got this 5 x 7 because your parents didnt know you went to the dance.

The back. I'm hoping you can click and enlarge. If not I'll email it!



Not sure why I have this, but it is you!

Flowers

I still don't know what I'm doing about flowers for the wedding. I kind of think a lot of white gerber daisies with orange ones mixed in and greenery. I really like hydrangeas though... Oh! I also thought carrying bluebonnets would be a nice Texas touch. I probably won't use any of those ideas.

Here is a picture of what I thought I'd do in the beginning of the planning.

Friday, February 12, 2010

Snow in the South

Wish I had a picture that showed how beautiful the whole street looks covered in white. These are pretty good though. Too bad it means we will be stuck in the house for 24 hours, if not more. It is moving into the twenties so the roads will be a solid sheet of ice soon. I think that means I can stay in my pj's and on the couch the whole time!


Grace wanted to play.


She is a complete nut when she gets outside.


This log is heavy!


This was about 2 1/2 hours after it started to snow.

Pine Tree out front.


*Side note: News said to stay off the roads unless emergency. Dan declared ice cream an emergency.

Wednesday, February 10, 2010

I want to end on a high note

A small backyard wedding (immediate family only!) is what we've decided on. Groom in jeans, bride in random $12 dress from Ross. It has been fun looking at wedding stuff and not doing all the traditional foo-foo mess that is not me! I will be posting pics of the ideas/plans for June 12.

First up the cake!


Since this feeds 150-200 people it will need to be modified. I think I'm at 30 people right now. So, maybe the top 3 tiers.... the bow and flowers have to go and a lighter yellow. I think it is a fun cake!

I'm in a mood today...

I feel like I can go off on various topics right now!

The biggest being work. I have never worked at such a dysfunctional place. I'm not even sure where to start or how to describe it. People that are suppose to be there to help and support you are so rude. My team has even commented how whenever I ask a completely normal question I get a rude response that usually doesn't even address the question.

They say that we are doing what is in the best interest of the student, but I don't see it. Starting mid march we are changing schedules, cutting specials time to 30 minutes, sending kids to different teachers, and teaching reading for 3 hours and math for 3 hours. What in the world?! Teaching something longer is not going to make them "get it". If anything they are going to get glazed eyes and bored which equals behavior problems. If we taught more science and social studies they'd have more benefit working through the complex topics, but we are cutting it out. Well, according to "them" we will "fit it in". Hmmm.... Do you think they are even going to tell parents that their students are going to have a different teacher all day? I made the mistake of asking about that little detail.

We are also teaching guided reading and guided math everyday. That isnt appropriate for 4th grade. They need to work a little more independently. My students are at the point where they need me to hold their hand to accomplish the simplest task. How is this helping them learn? It also makes it hard to work with a small group when half the class wants to ask me a question because they are too scared to try by themselves. In general teaching in Georgia has been like stepping back in time! I miss my other 2 school so bad. It is hard to teach when you don't agree with what you are being asked to do.

Ok, writing about it has not made me feel better so I wont even go into the other topics.